At the preschool age, preschoolers are limited in their ability to understand things that are happening around them and to express their feelings and needs. Hence, after a potentially traumatic event, preschoolers need protective adults to observe any changes in their behaviour, feelings or body (e.g. aches, pains), and help them understand their emotions and develop coping (i.e. self-regulation) skills.
Besides home, school is the other place where children spend a large part of their time in. Therefore, as an educator, you play an important role in supporting preschool children through such difficult periods in their lives. Here are some things an Educator can do:
When children who are exposed to trauma perceive that they are physically and emotionally safe in an environment, their brains are less likely to remain vigilant to potential sources of danger or threat. This means that they will have greater capacity to learn and regulate their behaviour and emotions. Here are some things that you can do to create a safe environment in school for children exposed to traumatic events:
Note that the routines and use of the safe space has to be practised with children when they are in a calm state, so that when children are overwhelmed by strong emotions, they may be better able to use the safe space, while guided by an adult.
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Sometimes, features in the environment that previously did not cause distress may now become a reminder to the traumatised child of the traumatic event and cause a reaction in them. These are called “environmental triggers”. For example, a child who was involved in a car accident might have a reaction when they hear the wheels or sound of a large vehicle (e.g. when the school bus or a truck drives by school), while a child who has been physically abused may become easily aggressive if others raise their voice at him or her.
Preschoolers may not be aware and may not be able to express to others about the challenges they face with triggers that arise. As such, you may need to anticipate situations that may arise based on your understanding of the child’s experiences and observations of their behaviours. You can do so by:
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You can play an important role in building connections with children by getting to know the child, and providing support to the child through everyday interactions. Safe, predictable, and consistent relationships that a child has with yourself can also help to bring their brain, emotions, and behaviours back into regulation; enabling children to have more capacity to learn too. Below are some tips you can take note of when building connections with preschoolers in school.
The picture shows a few examples of challenging behaviour, what it means to have a trauma-informed understanding of the behaviour, and how caregivers can respond supportively
Preschoolers are still developing their abilities to regulate themselves. As such they can still be easily overwhelmed by strong emotions and will need external support by way of consistent soothing by adults in their environment. Besides family, preschool educators can play an important role in supporting children’s development of self-regulation abilities through 1) modelling calmness and co-regulating with them, and 2) helping them develop skills in expressing and regulating emotions appropriately.
You can help to soothe a preschooler's big emotions by modelling calmness through their responses to the child, and co-regulating with the young child. Here are some steps to effectively co-regulate with a child:
First, Self-Regulate. Try to be aware of changes in your own body and feelings in that moment, and to regulate yourself, so that you can respond in a calm manner.
Then, Co-Regulate. Respond in a way that meets the child’s needs by:
Young children learn by observing adults self-regulate and co-regulate with other children. They also learn from instructions and real-time practice. Repeated practice builds children's capacities to self-regulate, and shows them that they have support and that their strong emotions can be soothed.
Over time, such repeated experiences of the adult co-regulating with the child and frequent opportunities for the child to practice self-regulation with the support of the adult, enhance children’s neural network control systems of emotional self-awareness and self-management. In turn, this enables children to develop their own capacities to self-regulate.
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The first step to regulating emotions is to be aware of them. This starts with being able to put a name or label to what the child is feeling. When you label a child’s feeling, you are also helping the child feel understood and validated. You can support pre-schoolers in learning how to identify their own feelings, and validating their experiences by:
Children can learn self-regulation skills by watching how other children and adults cope with stressful situations. As preschool educators, we can help to complement their learning by explicitly teaching some of these skills in the following ways:
An important part of developing a child’s ability to manage their emotions better is to help them understand that they can reach out to others for emotional support. You may do so by:
The chart below can be a useful tool to prompt a preschooler to identify different forms of social support he or she might have.
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